If you could…what would you tell your child?

Behind every child who believes in themselves is a parent who believed first

Communication brings people together. A parent-child relationship is a curious one as we all go through phases when it comes to bonding with our child. So, what does it take to make the relationship a lasting one, one that nurtures and helps build? Words of trust.

Which is why, today, we want to remind all the parents out there that it is important to reaffirm your child as much as you can to allow them to thrive. After all, didn’t we all wish we had the same growing up, words of love and trust?

So, we asked parents what they’d do differently to curate a positive learning ground for their children. Here’s what they had to say.

“Kindness is always an appropriate response.”

Remember that one old friend from high school who was always nice to people? You might have grown apart, but they are always in your thoughts. Kindness is the one thing that transcends time and is always etched in time, paving way for more growth, love, and…kindness! Even as grown-ups it’s important to remember that kindness is always the right ingredient to solve any problem.

“It’s okay to make mistakes.”

We all remember when we went through phases in life where we beat ourselves up and worried too much about the mistakes we made. It’s time we told our children that it’s okay to make mistakes and that any moment of uncertainty will pass. Reassurance will help children a great deal, especially when the words come from you!

“You don’t owe me anything.”

Oftentimes, children are confused and burdened with the thought that they owe parents a lot for all that they do for their children. This is quite natural, as their thoughts root from being grateful. But it is important to remind young ones that all we need for them to do is grow up to be happy and kind individuals.

“You’re no better or worse. You’re just you.”

This is a crucial point to get across. It is important to grow up to be grounded individuals. Self-deprecation or being over-confident is not the answer to living life to the fullest. It’s about striking the balance and most importantly, understanding yourself and accepting your flaws. It’s okay to be yourself, while striving to mould yourself.

“I want you to know, I don’t have all the answers.”

Children think parents know it all and have seen it all. It’s important to communicate with your child and let them know that you are learning too and that everyone spends their lifetime trying to better themselves. This way, children grow up without having the false impression that life truly starts after you officially become an adult. Learning; it is a lifetime process.

“You deserve to be respected.”

Most times, even as adults, we forget the importance of self-respect. While we strive to be loving and kind to our loved ones, we are devoid of the emotion when it comes to ourselves. This is because we know we are flawed, and we only learn to see the imperfections. But it is never too late to tell our children that they should grow up respecting themselves just as much as they learn to respect others.

“I will always love you.”

The most important thought to get across, that we will love our children despite their flaws, mistakes, and downfalls. You have been a good friend to your child, if they know that you will always be there for them. Utter these words as much as you can and let them know they have your full support. They will always remember you for your kindness, which in turn would help them grow up to be kind, loving, happy individuals!